I had a kid that was a perfectionist and it difficult for him to make decisions. He was always afraid of making the wrong one, but *not* making a decision is a decision.
Learning that a decision doesn’t have to be permanent, and that he could change his mind, took the weight off.
If it didn’t work out, that didn’t mean he failed. The decision might have been the right one initially, but the circumstances or people involved might have changed.
I had a kid that was a perfectionist and it difficult for him to make decisions. He was always afraid of making the wrong one, but *not* making a decision is a decision.
Learning that a decision doesn’t have to be permanent, and that he could change his mind, took the weight off.
If it didn’t work out, that didn’t mean he failed. The decision might have been the right one initially, but the circumstances or people involved might have changed.
I'll add one character that sometimes show up in my inner dialogue in between the above mentioned : The Philosopher ---
"Wait, why am I doing any of this ? Why does any of this matter ?!? What purpose does this play in the grand scheme of things?!??"
I think King Solomon would agree with you in Ecclesiastes 1—all is “vanity” especially if we’re focused on ourselves.